We’ll get to the sex therapist shortly. Our first port of call is sex callers at Lifeline. When I started volunteering at Lifeline crisis counselling in 2005, the training for ‘wannabe’ Lifeline telephone counselors was spread over a three-month period. … Continued
Usually people tell you NOT to do this on a first date – but I disagree. I explain how bringing up this topic reveals whether your date’s a keeper – or whether to cancel that second date. The topic I … Continued
I wanted a trophy boyfriend. It’s true. And extremely embarrassing. Before you judge me, please know that it took me four decades to become consciously aware of this embarrassing desire. It also took me four decades to realize that, due … Continued
Yup. There were two unexpected things when I started learning meditation. Brain orgasms was one. I’m really sorry, but I can’t think of a better way to describe the sensation. Sometimes during meditation, not always, there’s a slow, pleasurable, build-up … Continued
I told my friend Marcia about my pounding headaches. The ones that felt like a crushing jackhammer inside my skull each time I moved. The ones that left me feeling really reluctant to move. “I used to get those headaches,” … Continued
I was ugly crying. I was also stabbing and gouging the pages of my journal. More than tears & paper-mutilation I was indeed journalling, but this was no ordinary ‘journaling’ that I did for 20 minutes each morning. I mean, … Continued
I love New Year’s. I love asking people if they’ve made New Year’s resolutions. And that’s because I’m obsessed with habits – and most resolutions are do with breaking unhealthy habits and making healthy ones: quit smoking, eat more healthily, … Continued
Multi-millionaire Marie Forleo credits this habit for saving her relationship. Song-bird Alanis Morissette is also a fan. And I just started creating this habit with my new-ish man. Speaking of which, this is my first public outing of the ‘Pirate’. … Continued
Shortly after my no-fun marriage separation, my ex dropped some of my property at a friends house. The ex told my friend of my plans to do a PhD, adding his opinion that I’d never finish it. Some years and … Continued
Self-compassion is unpopular – mainly as many think it’s a demotivating weakness. Which is a shame. The clinical evidence suggests the exact opposite. This short 17-minute video on self-compassion from Dr Kristin Neff is well worth a watch as – … Continued