I wanted a trophy boyfriend. It’s true. It’s also extremely embarrassing. Before you judge me, please know that it took me four decades to become consciously aware of this embarrassing desire. It also took me four decades to realize that, … Continued
![[1 Minute Psychology] How men can be courageous](../../wp-content/uploads/man-and-dog-1i-2-15-crop.jpg)
Sometimes the most terrifying, and therefore most courageous, thing you can do is admit that you are not coping and ask for support. This is what I told the men who called Lifeline crisis counseling when I volunteered there as … Continued
No disrespect to Susan Jeffer’s classic book; Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. It’s good, but this strategy is even better. Much better. I’ve figured out how to be fearless. I was called “colorful” last week. “Thank you”, I … Continued
We’ll get to the sex therapist shortly. Our first port of call is sex callers at Lifeline. When I started volunteering at Lifeline crisis counselling 10 years ago, the training for ‘wannabe’ Lifeline telephone counselors was spread over a three-month … Continued
I couldn’t believe my luck. My good luck that is. The Indian train conductor had just sprinted though my carriage and locked himself in the train engine in front. I guessed there was a racial problem, as; hot on his heels, two … Continued
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I’ve decided not to kill myself after talking to you - is what a Lifeline caller told me. I’ve made some truly crappy decisions in my life, and I’ve made some truly great ones. My decision to join Lifeline as … Continued