Yup. There were two unexpected things when I started learning meditation. Brain orgasms was one. I’m really sorry, but I can’t think of a better way to describe the sensation. Sometimes during meditation, not always, there’s a slow, pleasurable, build-up … Continued
Self-compassion is unpopular – mainly as many think it’s a demotivating weakness. Which is a shame. The clinical evidence suggests the exact opposite. This short 17-minute video on self-compassion from Dr Kristin Neff is well worth a watch as – … Continued
We are over halfway through the year. Before I tell you about my recent life-changing-hideous-failure-induced epiphany, how’s those New Year’s resolutions going? I was one of several behavior change experts interviewed for a Next magazine article ‘Resolution Reboot‘. The article … Continued
Need more self-control? Here’s a 3:42 minute willpower booster. An unfortunate myth about self-control has arisen from the Stanford University marshmallow/self-control experiments (do you want one marshmallow now or two marshmallows in 10 minutes). And the myth is that … Continued
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The standard ‘SMART’ goals would be more effective & efficient if they were SMARTeR: As any self-respecting behavior psychologist will tell you, behaviors that get rewarded get repeated. In practice, this means rewarding efforts towards your goals will get you there … Continued
It’s not just failure I’m scared of. I’m scared of many things: Criticism Ridicule Put downs Being incompetent Not getting high enough grades Not being good enough….. But not good enough for what? Most of us are scared of all of these things. … Continued