What the sex therapist told me en route to the burlesque show

We’ll get to the sex therapist shortly. Our first port of call is sex callers at Lifeline. When I started volunteering at Lifeline crisis counselling in 2005, the training for ‘wannabe’ Lifeline telephone counselors was spread over a three-month period. … Continued

I forgot my handcuffs! A true story of snatching life-saving lessons from the jaws of humiliating failure

We are over halfway through the year. Before I tell you about my recent life-changing-hideous-failure-induced epiphany, how’s those New Year’s resolutions going? I was one of several behavior change experts interviewed for a Next magazine article ‘Resolution Reboot‘. The article … Continued

My HuffPost article: NZ’s dirty secret (aka why I’m a raging meninist as well as a feminist)

This is the article that got me a spot as a Huffington Post contributor. It’s dedicated to two heroes: the courageous young woman in the Stanford sexual assault case and rugby hero and courageous anti-depression campaigner, Sir John Kirwan. The precursor to getting … Continued

Why I’m so scared of failure – and sabertooth tigers

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It’s not just failure I’m scared of. I’m scared of many things: Criticism Ridicule Put downs Being incompetent Not getting high enough grades Not being good enough….. But not good enough for what? Most of us are scared of all of these things. … Continued