Sometimes the most terrifying, and therefore most courageous, thing you can do – is admit that you are not coping and ask for support.
I used to tell that to the men who called Lifeline crisis counseling – and then I chose to accept the horrifying truth that I was struggling and lonely. I took my own advice. I dropped the mask and let my friends in. I told them I was struggling and needed their help. And they cast a supportive net around me.
Not everyone will applaud your excruciating vulnerability and courage (as Brené Brown found in her shame research, courage can hold up an uncomfortable mirror to others’ sense of inadequacy), but those who do are your true friends.
Plus there is the added bonus that courage is contagious 🙂