The print and e-book versions of The 21-day myth will be available from Amazon and elsewhere soon (est. early November 2018)
The book – The 21 day myth: A step by step guide to rapid habit change (including procrastination) – is for you if:
- You procrastinate.
- You struggle to start.
- You struggle to finish.
- You sincerely vow “I’ll start tomorrow”.
- You don’t start tomorrow.
- You feel guilty about procrastinating.
- You feel frustrated by your inability to stop procrastinating.
- You wonder what’s wrong with you.
- You feel like you never work hard enough.
- You tell yourself, after you finally start working:
- “I should have started sooner”, or
- “I should have achieved more by now”, or
- “I have too much to do and not enough time!”
- You’ve given up making New Year’s resolutions.
- You’ve been struggling with habit-change for years.
- You believe you have no willpower, or self-control.
Why I wrote The 21 day myth
There’s nothing wrong with you. The problem is, culturally, we misunderstand self-control and motivation. To the point where it’s common to (unintentionally) demotivate ourselves.
This book contains the psychology tools I developed and used to get myself from university dropout to PhD. I overcame my procrastination and poor study habits sufficiently to submit a timely, quality PhD thesis. I’ve since used these tools to help others change a range of habits.
The book explains:
- The biggest myth about self-control and willpower.
- The real cause of procrastination (Hint; there’s no such thing as ‘laziness’).
- Why relying on energy-intensive fallible willpower is overrated – & what to use instead.
- How long it really takes to change a habit (Hint; not 21 days!).
- How to bridge the ‘intention-behavior gap.’
- The three fastest ways to turn a behavior into a habit.
- The fastest & proven way to bounce back from habit-change-fail (i.e. breaking your diet, smoking when you’re trying to quit, not going to the gym despite your best intentions, etc.)
- The common way we (unintentionally) demotivate ourselves – & how to stop.
- The motivation strategies that are the same for everyone.
- How to personalize the motivation strategies & create an evergreen list of highly motivating rewards for you.
- How to customize the behavior change strategies to change any habit.
You can read an excerpt from the book here, it explains a little known psychology fundamental of motivation: Why is changing habits so hard? (Hint: it’s not your fault!)
‘SUE’, PART-TIME UNIVERSITY STUDENT, BUSINESS OWNER, WIFE, MOTHER, TAURANGA
“A+! I’m pretty chuffed with that!!!!! I am very proud of getting more life balance along with study and getting an amazing result! Thank you Rebecca, understanding what was behind my procrastination and self-sabotaging behaviors was like turning the light on.
I am now able to move forward with confidence (and less fear) knowing that I have an amazing toolkit of learnings and techniques to help keep me on track. You’re a star!”
COLLEGE STUDENT, 16 YEARS, AUCKLAND
“Rebecca helped me improve my motivation and study skills when I was sitting my level 1 NCEA exams. She really understood my problems with time management and concentration. I think what helped most was understanding that I procrastinated because I was scared of failing, not because I was lazy. Rebecca showed me how to study more effectively, and I’m pretty sure she helped me get a merit endorsement. It was good being less anxious around exam time too.”
TERESA NAGEL, M.Sc., WELLINGTON
“I was privileged to have Rebecca’s guidance at the time I was struggling to complete my Master’s thesis. By encouraging me to practice [psychology] strategies, I was able to manage my anxiety and overcome my procrastination.
Had it not been for Rebecca, I doubt I would have been able to continue. I owe the completion of my thesis entirely to her intervention”
Between my university experience and eight years as a volunteer Lifeline telephone counselor, I realized we have an epidemic of procrastination, anxiety, chronic stress and underperformance.
This epidemic is pervasive throughout our culture, but is especially and devastatingly evident in our education and work places. There are far too many people suffering unnecessarily for lack of simple psychology tools.
Procrastination is a habit. The same strategic psychology tools I synthesized to overcome procrastination and other poor study habits, can be customized to rapidly make or break any habit. For example:
SABRINA GREGORIAN, WRITER, LOS ANGELES
“Within a few minutes of talking with Rebecca, my puzzling, frustrating behaviors made much more sense to me. She provided me with enlightening information as well as with the tools to apply the information to my life, and with her help I’ve made some great changes.
One of which I know many people struggle with… exercising. This had been a struggle of mine for years, but within a month of working with Rebecca I now exercise one hour a day, at least five days a week.. and I absolutely love it. This has impacted the quality of my life in ways I can’t put into words. I’ve also become more efficient overall – in time management and work productivity.
But what I believe made all my progress possible is Rebecca’s kind, humane, empathetic approach. She taught me the importance of self-compassion and celebrating my own successes, no matter how small they might seem – and it’s this new learned attitude that has paved an expedited path for growth.
And Rebecca did this all while making the process of learning enjoyable, personalized, and funny”.
TERESA AHERNE, AUCKLAND, NZ
“I’ve tried everything over the years to stop smoking, and then, a month ago, Rebecca fixed my brain (well, the part that wants to smoke) in 10 minutes. I haven’t smoked since.”
There is nothing wrong with you. You have plenty of willpower. I know how hard you try. You simply need the psychology tools to better understand how to motivate your brain.
Where do I get The 21 day myth?
The book will be available from Amazon and elsewhere from an estimated November 2018.
Once The 21-day myth is published, you’ll be able to purchase from a link on this page.
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